As your mom retires and grows older, living alone can become difficult. Yet, leaving one’s home for assisted living options can be distressful, especially if she recently experienced the death of a spouse. If you think your mother would benefit from assisted living, here are four ways to bring up the idea. 

4 Tips for Talking About Assisted Living

1. Plan in Advance

Don’t blindside your mom by turning up one day with brochures and prices for assisted living communities. Instead, ease into the topic by casually bringing it up well in advance. A good time to mention assisted living can be when she complains how difficult it is to be at home or struggling to take care of herself after an injury. 

2. Make It a Discussion, Not a Decision  

Bring the topic up as a suggestion and ask what her wishes are for the future. In addition to assisted living, propose and discuss other options like meal deliveries, home nursing, or retirement communities. Talk about the pros and cons and consider her preferences for staying safe and comfortable in the long-term.

3. Recognize Concerns

Your mother may feel anger, frustration, betrayal, or sadness if you discuss assisted living. Concerns may include a loss of independence, loneliness, and death. When she expresses these fears, look into the specific services, activities, and safety standards of assisted living communities. Start at places where your mother’s friends are living; she may feel more comfortable there. You can also ask them how they like it in the community.

4. Tour Facilities

Bring your mom to tour the senior communities under consideration. These can be informal visits to friends or family already residing there. During visits, participate in community activities, tour the grounds, and speak with residents and staff. Allow time for your mom to warm up to the idea and participate in the decision.

If you are ready to help your mother live her golden years more comfortably and safely, contact the assisted living experts at CarePatrol in Westport, CT. Their elderly care advisors provide tailored consultations to help families find the right community for their needs. To arrange a free consultation, fill out their online form or call (203) 244-9562.