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A divorce tends to bring out strong emotions for everyone involved. Given the intense emotional atmosphere, it's hardly surprising that tempers can flare and relatively minor disputes can be blown out of proportion. But maintaining civility is essential for the smooth resolution of any divorce — and for the entire family unit as you move forward. Below, family law attorney Thomas A. Corletta, Attorney at Law in Rochester, New York, shares a few ways to keep your cool and maintain a level of courtesy throughout your divorce.

Be an Informed Part of the Process

In family law, as in most areas of life, knowledge is power. The more you know about how the law works and what the law can and cannot do, the better prepared you'll be to navigate the ups and downs of your divorce. Read up on what to expect from trusted and reliable sources, ask questions of your lawyer, and consider joining a support or discussion group for divorced spouses. Don’t rely on hearsay, gossip, or “advice” you hear from friends or co-workers. Every case is different. Knowledge is the best preparation, and understanding your divorce process will keep surprises at a minimum and help maintain civility.

Look for the Good

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Once your divorce is finalized, it isn't written anywhere that you never have to see or talk to your spouse again. This doesn’t work; especially if you have children You are probably going to have to continue to deal with them. In the meantime, the details of your divorce must to be worked out clearly and concisely. This can be a challenge in contentious splits. So, look for the good in your soon-to-be ex, no matter how difficult that might be. Find one or two positive qualities to focus on. Was your spouse a good parent? A good provider? A good worker? Did they financially support you while you were out of work? Were they a good person and you just grew apart? Everyone has good in them; find it in your spouse and you'll discover it is much easier to be civil.

Work Closely With Your Lawyer

Your family law attorney should be your go-to resource throughout the divorce. A close working relationship ensures you are an informed and empowered part of your case and will help you decide how you want the case to come out. A lawyer can also provide some much-needed support and guidance as you transition to a new chapter in your life. Such support and guidance can help you keep a level head in a contentious divorce.

If you live in the Rochester region, trust Thomas A. Corletta, Attorney at Law to handle your divorce. For 37 years, he has been helping area residents find the legal solutions they need. Call (585) 546-5072, visit his website, or message him on Facebook or Twitter to arrange a consultation with a family law attorney.

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